Your Days Are Your Life

"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives."

-- Annie Dillard

Context

Dillard wrote this in The Writing Life, published in 1989, in the context of describing how writers spend their days -- and how easy it is to fritter them away while telling yourself you are preparing to do the real work. But the line outgrew its context immediately. What she describes as a trap for writers is, of course, a trap for everyone. Most people operate as though their actual life is waiting somewhere in the future: after the project finishes, after the kids grow up, after things calm down. Dillard's sentence makes that logic impossible to sustain. There is no life separate from the days. The days are the life. The word "of course" is the sharpest part -- she says it as though it should already be obvious, which makes the reader wonder why it took so long to see.

Reflection Question

If the way you spent yesterday is the way you spent your life, what kind of life did you live? And if the answer troubles you even slightly, what is one thing about today you could spend differently?

Application Tip

At the end of each day this week, spend three minutes writing a plain honest account of how you actually spent your time -- not how you planned to, not how you wish you had, but what actually happened hour by hour. Do this without judgment. By Friday you will have a remarkably clear picture of the life you are living right now, as opposed to the life you imagine you are living. Then ask one question: if this pattern continued for a year, what would it have built? Use the answer to make one small, concrete change next week.